You and your partner need to be able to tolerate some recrimination, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Otherwise it could be hard to move on from this
Last year I began an affair with a man I’d met when we were in our late teens. Back then we’d had a fling, but were both getting ready to leave home to start work and uni, and the time wasn’t right for anything serious. Last year we reconnected, when he was 20 years into a marriage that he’d been miserable in for half that time (I wasn’t the first person he’d had an affair with).
His wife found out about us and their marriage is over for her now too. He’s moved in with me while they work their way through separating finances and assets – real estate is costly and hard to find here; a place of his own will take time to arrange.
