You are the one keeping everything going and are not appreciated but taking your children abroad will disrupt their lives. Reach out to your friends for support
The dilemma Last year my brother died of alcoholism. My husband, our two primary school-age children and I are living with my parents. I am the main breadwinner. I have tried to support my parents through their grief, as well as financially supporting them. I feel the more I do, the more they expect of me; they are never satisfied with my efforts. It has made old childhood wounds of being unheard, unseen, unvalued and the pressure to be a good girl return to the surface. They also blame me for a lot of what happened to my brother and say things like: “We helped you more than him and you are ungrateful.”
My husband has gone from being a kind, caring man to an angry one. He tells me that he never loved me. I am about to move to the other side of the world, with my children for my job, and my husband pulled out at the last minute. I am dealing with bereavement, divorce, a new country, a new job and a new language all at the same time.
